True Secret to Success (It’s Not What You Think)

By Jeffrey James

If you’re not exercising this emotional muscle, you’re probably setting yourself up for failure.

I’m utterly convinced that the key to lifelong success is the regular exercise of a single emotional muscle: gratitude.

People who approach life with a sense of gratitude are constantly aware of what’s wonderful in their life. Because they enjoy the fruits of their successes, they seek out more success. And when things don’t go as planned, people who are grateful can put failure into perspective.

By contrast, people who lack gratitude are never truly happy. If they succeed at a task, they don’t enjoy it. For them, a string of successes is like trying to fill a bucket with a huge leak in the bottom. And failure invariably makes them bitter, angry, and discouraged.

Therefore, if you want to be successful, you need to feel more gratitude. Fortunately, gratitude, like most emotions, is like a muscle: The more you use it, the stronger and more resilient it becomes.

Practice Nightly

The best time to exercise gratitude is just before bed. Take out your tablet (electronic or otherwise) and record the events of the day that created positive emotions, either in you or in those around you.

Did you help somebody solve a problem? Write it down. Did you connect with a colleague or friend? Write it down. Did you make somebody smile? Write it down.

What you’re doing is “programming your brain” to view your day more positively. You’re throwing mental focus on what worked well, and shrugging off what didn’t. As a result, you’ll sleep better, and you’ll wake up more refreshed.

Reprogramming Your Brain

More important, you’re also programming your brain to notice even more reasons to feel gratitude. You’ll quickly discover that even a “bad day” is full of moments that are worthy of gratitude. Success becomes sweeter; failure, less sour.

The more regularly you practice this exercise, the stronger its effects.

Over time, your “gratitude muscle” will become so strong that you’ll attract more success into your life, not to mention greater numbers of successful (i.e., grateful) people. You’ll also find yourself thanking people more often. That’s good for you and for them, too.

This method works. If you don’t believe me, try it for at least a week. You’ll be amazed at what a huge difference it makes.


4 Responses to “True Secret to Success (It’s Not What You Think)”
  1. Hakeem says:

    Thank you for this simple and powerful reminder. I actually practice gratitude first thing in the morning as a thank you for having a new day.

    I then have a little quirk of giving gratitude everytime the inside of either one of the palms of my hands has an itch throughout the day and whenever I have a small win like making new friend or a new sale.

    I think it is about time that I now adopt the habit of the before bed time gratitude to continue this most empowering, success sustaining practice! Thanks again!

  2. VInay says:

    Yes Thankyou so much for the Great inputs, this started working for me from LAST 2 weeks and I am feeling better & relaxed day after day.
    Thnakyou so much for the Great Inputs.

  3. DaleKathryn says:

    “…like trying to fill a bucket with a huge leak in the bottom.” What a perfect description! I know exactly what you mean because on the days that I feel overwhelmed with things to do, that is exactly how I feel! I will now use that as a trigger to pull out my gratitude journal! Thank you!

  4. naija poets says:

    I believe gratitude is good for self but I have noticed that the more it is expressed beyond self, the more people take your heart of gratitude towards them as a sign of weakness.

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